From Heavy Emotional Load to Lightness and Mastery Over Conflict

We can't control the circumstances of what happens in our lives, but things are gonna come up that trigger us or frustrate us or anger us or trigger fear. Having this practice available to you is a way for you to basically get back into regulation and be open and continue to be open to possibility and trusting. An amazing tool for you to have a very open and loving experience in this life. I'm Andre. I live in New Jersey, and I'm a technical sales consultant. Life before Transformative Listening was very heavy. It felt like a very exhausting load that I was carrying every day. It felt like I was dim, like I just wasn't happy. I couldn't find the joy in anything. Everything was just a problem. People were a problem, situations were a problem, where I live was a problem, how I feel was a problem. Everything was a problem. Life just felt-- It just sucked. I needed more tools to help me shed some of that weight. I guess when I started it, I didn't think it was real. It's like, how can someone be-- how can myself and someone else hold that, like a loving presence for me to just be who I truly am and not hide any parts of me and express, like, without filtering? I didn't think it was real. After being there the first time, really, and how I felt just being seen and just how quickly you go from feeling heavy to feeling light and seeing possibility and being more open, I think it just really clicked. I can handle conflict so much better 'cause I can recognize when someone is distressed and, you know, without, like, explaining too much, I basically hold a listening space for them to shed and also get that in return. So I don't have conflict as much because I understand what I need to do to get rid of the distress when I'm, you know, feeling frustrated or angry or fearful. Transformative Listening really helped me sort of turn down the volume on that voice that's, you know, holding me back and allowing me to discharge some of those fears, some of that anger, so I can, like, be my full open self and trust. I just went to their in-person retreat, and we were doing some rage sessions. You know, I'm a very typ-- Most people describe me as a very calm person. Underneath that calm, there's a lot of bottled-up rage and anger. So we spent some time doing a rage exercise, and you had the opportunity to sort of curate what scene you wanted to drop into or how you would get into that moment of expressing rage. My version of that was to be held down by seven men while I tried to escape. Of course, I didn't escape. I really hated it. And the aha came to me was like, I really don't enjoy pressure. I don't enjoy, like, that load, and I've been living my whole life basically holding load, holding everybody else's shit when I don't fucking want to. And then the resentment builds and the anger builds, and then I bottle it up. So the big aha was like, I don't want to go through life using that as my fuel anymore. I truly recommend Transformative Listening 'cause I'm a skeptic. You know, I grew up in a household where emotions were not things that we talk about, discuss. They're not even real. And so there's a lot of programming that I had to undo to recognize the value of expressing emotions. So if you are skeptical, try it once. Just try it once, and then just see how you feel in your body after that one time. And that will really, you know, be a signal for you. The other thing I wanna call out is just Illia and Julia are masters at holding space and holding container and teaching this method. I don't-- I've not come across-- And I've, you know, worked with many coaches and practitioners and people in the healing space, and they have a gift of how they can hold you, hold the space, hold you to learn the methodology, and they're really special healers to work with.