Overcoming Fear of Visibility and Dating After 20 Years Alone

Kathy Carlson/Young (00:03) Hi, I'm Cathy Carlson/Young, I live in Parker, Colorado, which is a suburb of Denver. And what I do for a is I specialize in mind shift and leadership development. So I work with executive teams to help raise their awareness. The Manifest Your Man program has helped me really, first off, even realize that I was longing for a new relationship and ready to step into a new love life. I was so busy building a business, and taking care of other people in my family, and other things along that line that I was not as aware of that fact until I started into this program. And I think that's actually what called me to even join this program. I joined it after an immersion. The other things that it's helped me with is it's helping me realize how much I have to take a look at how I'm loving me, and how do I express that, and am I doing all this self-sacrifice or am I actually looking at what's going to make me have a whole life that I love and not just pieces of a life that I love. So it's not only giving me tips and tools about how to date after 20 years of not being in a relationship but also I love the fact that it's so linked to all of the consciousness and the awareness as the root cause, and the key piece is to really examine to see where is my real vibration? Not just what I think it is. So what surprised me the very most about my experience in Manifest Your Man was when I started realizing how much time and energy, and life energy I was investing in supporting everybody, always putting myself last. I've raised three children, I have a lot of grandchildren, and I found myself still putting myself last, doing what they wanted and then feeling... less than fulfilled and satisfied - not that I was unhappy, but it just didn't feel alive to me. And so, that was a big surprise to realize that it was that piece that was causing me to feel less than satisfied with my life and my relationships. My overall experience so far with Manifest Your Man has been wonderful. I'm in the VIP program, so I get to participate in the fireside chats with Matt and other special bonuses that he includes. And the community of people I learn from all of the observational learning as well as the questions that I ask. The one-on-one coaching been an incredible It just moved up my experience a whole 'nuther other level. Since starting work with my one-on-one coach, I have had real strong direct assistance in overcoming my fear of being visible, my fear of being too old, my fear of thinking that I'm going to attract a relationship like I had in the past that really didn't serve me, and isn't something I would love. And I can tell that that belief is just shrinking on a regular basis. A specific breakthrough I had during my coaching sessions was around getting ready to put up an online dating profile. I always believed that I really didn't like online dating, that I didn't need to do that, that that was just not a way I connect with people. But there was a combination of a comment Matt made at one point and then something my coach said that let me really realize that if I'm going to show the universe that I'm all in, and I'm doing what can from where I am with what I have, then saying "yes" to online dating is part of that. So my vision for love this year is that I am going to put myself out there, and I am actually going to start meeting more men, and start dating, and what I want it to be is a fun journey to find someone with whom I want to spend the rest of my life. So this has been an excellent investment. And certainly, without being in the Manifest Your Man program, I really doubt I would yet be focusing on or even aware of how much I really am looking forward to being in partnership again. Being part of the Manifest Your Man community and working alongside all these other happy, supportive, brave, courageous women and men that are exploring this portion of their life has really helped me recognize that I'm more supported than I thought I was. I'm not out here all by myself. I'm not trying to figure it out all alone. If you're considering joining and you haven't yet... if taking a step forward and exploring what could be there for you is important to you, I can't encourage you enough to join. I have never experienced anything like this in any other program. There's also so much awareness to start building your plan and your program and calling in the love of your life in a way that is based in what your own soul is calling for.