Healing Childhood Trauma and Improving Relationship Connection Through Presence and Loving Attention

We've had some one-on-ones with Elia. Just to have him there where I can let it all out and just feel comfortable, and how he holds such a space, and there's no judgment. It's just purely support. He's purely there for you, to be with you in the experience, to witness you. Just that presence is so different from what I'm used to, and that in itself is hugely impactful. Hi, my name is Jason Smith, and I work as an, uh, structural engineer here in Florida, and also working as a coach. What led me to Transformative Listening was really just a pathway to connect with others, and ultimately work through a lot of my childhood stuff that's been coming up that I've been discovering and working to transform. So yeah, that's the main thing, is the connection and, and then the transformation, healing basically all the stuff within me that I've discovered. What's different about Transformative Listening is actually opposite of what we're taught to do in society. We're taught to, when you feel emotions, stuff it away, first off. Make sure you stuff it away. Definitely make sure you don't show anyone. No one can know that you're distressed in any way. No one can know, and we ignore it. This is, "Hey, you're sad. You're angry. You're upset in some way. That's perfect. There is nothing wrong with you. You're feeling exactly how you should feel." And it's such a different approach. Instead of making things good and bad, it's, "No, this is all good. It's all you. It's all tells a story." And then we actually go into it, and it's just, it's a healing modality. Elia's helped to guide me through first just understanding everything that I've been experiencing is normal, even though they feel like crap, they're challenging, it's really tough to handle the emotions and the, the old memories. And just knowing, "Hey, it's okay. There's nothing wrong with you," a bad thing, that you're screwed up or something like that. It's, "Hey, you had this experience. These are old memories." And having that comfort, that peace of mind, first of all, that's a huge thing in itself. And then just guiding me through those emotions, through the process of it all, how to handle them, and giving that loving attention. It's incredible, actually. I didn't receive [laughs] that a lot growing up. So an incredible experience. It's very impactful. Surprisingly impactful. Doing this program, the way I feel about l- listening to someone else and supporting someone else is different. It's helped me in my relationship a lot. Often in a disagreement in a relationship or a misunderstanding, there's this blame game, and there's this wanting to fix things. That always leads to some kind of argument or dis- you know, s- some kind of bad energy, and the thing is, this cuts all, all that out. This is, teaches you to be present, because that's ultimately what's needed. It's, we need to be listened to and fully accepted and loved as we are and what we're experiencing, honoring what is actually happening, and knowing that's the only thing that we're here to do. We're not here to fix anything, just 'cause there's nothing wrong to begin with. Transformative Listening is really for everybody. It'll be especially impactful if someone who is maybe isolated or you don't have people to really talk to about the things you're going through. This is for anyone who wants to seek their inner truth, to really navigate the inner stuff that people don't wanna talk about, someone who wants to finally face the things that they feel inside of them and let them go, heal them.