ShareOne ReviewsWhat do real people say about intimacy building?
14 people recorded interviews about intimacy building across 2 organisations. 7 of them mentioned better family or relationship life in their own words. Every figure below is a count of what people said in their recorded interview — not a clinical trial or a survey.
First-hand accounts from people who talked about intimacy building in their recorded interview.
What people said changed
Counts of interviews where the person described this in their own words.
- Family & relationships7 of 14 mentioned it
“We had tried a lot of things and had been in a pretty unhealthy relationship for, like, five and a half years before we found Transformative Listening.”Christina H.
- Felt supported4 of 14 mentioned it
“It's really hard to explain Transformative Listening.”Christina H.
- Confidence2 of 14 mentioned it
“It was important for us to come back to the Summit of Love because the first time we were here, Annie Nevin gave a concept of each individual in a couple has its blind spot, but the couple as an entity also has its bl…”Jennifer & Alex 11-25
- Better systems1 of 14 mentioned it
“And we love rituals, but to have more of a framework of why rituals are important.”Jason & Dina 11-25
- Mobility1 of 14 mentioned it
“But I'm certainly walking away with a whole new set of tools and outlook on being able to live my and our higher self.”Stacey & Dan 5-25
Stories in this topic
Showing 12 of 14 interviews.
- Transformative ListeningWatchSaved Marriage on the Brink of Divorce and Reclaimed Intimacy Through VulnerabilityChristina H. used Transformative Listening to save her marriage when she and her husband were on the brink of divorce and living separated. After five and a half years of destructive patterns and failed traditional therapy, they achieved a level of intimacy c…Christina H. · Transformative Listening
WatchDiscovering a New Level of Intimacy and Shared Purpose Beyond ExpectationsAnnie and David attended Summit of Love to elevate their already strong marriage. Despite believing they had reached their peak, the couple discovered a 'next level' of intimacy, uncovering hidden desires and defining a shared 'couples entity' vision. David n…Annie & David 5-25 · Summit of Love
WatchNewly Engaged Couple Learns Invaluable Tools for Conflict Resolution and IntimacyKJ and Jamie attended Summit of Love to kick off their engagement. They gained the 'soothing mantra,' a step-by-step instructional process to unwind breaks in connection and ensure quick recoveries. Jamie noted the event was the most impactful experience they…KJ & Jamie 11-25 · Summit of Love
WatchIlluminating Relationship Blind Spots and Mastering Nervous System Co-Regulation ToolsAlex Moscow and Jennifer Hudye-Moscow reviewed Summit of Love, reporting that the three-and-a-half-day experience provided a container to illuminate relationship blind spots. They gained practical processes for nervous system co-regulation during triggers and…Jennifer & Alex 11-25 · Summit of Love
WatchRenewed Love and Collaborative Clarity Through High Leverage Relationship ImmersionStacey and Eric describe Summit of Love as high-leverage work that renewed their love and provided clarity on their next business collaboration. They reported that a prayer declared on day one was answered by day three. The experience offered a curated enviro…Stacey & Eric 5-25 · Summit of Love
WatchA Quantum Leap in Marriage Through Unprecedented Safety and Emotional IntelligenceJessica and Brian describe Summit of Love as a quantum leap for their marriage, shifting them from going through the motions to living with an open heart. They achieved a world-class upgrade in their relationship intelligence, citing the unique safety of the…Jessica & Brian 5-25 · Summit of Love
WatchDeepening Connection and Raising Relationship Expectations Through Repeat Summit BreakthroughsAnnie and David describe Summit of Love as an absolute multiplier for their relationship. After their first visit helped them 'get their mojo back,' their second visit raised expectations of who they could be together, resulting in deeper connection, improved…Annie & David 11-25 · Summit of Love
WatchAchieved Intimate Alignment and Transformed Shame into Personal Power TogetherLisa and David, attending Summit of Love by Annie Lalla, achieved true intimate alignment and clarity for their future. Lisa reported breaking through a mental construct of shame, transforming a deep wound into personal power. They described the experience as…Lisa & David 5-25 · Summit of Love
WatchCouples Mastermind Reveals Business Blind Spots and Deepens Relationship IntimacyRichard and Debra attended Summit of Love by Annie Lalla to improve their marriage and connect with high-powered peers. The experience revealed a major blind spot regarding their 23-year-old business, leading to the decision to become official co-owners. They…Richard & Debra 5-25 · Summit of Love
WatchAchieved 30% More Appreciation and Practical Strategies for Relationship OptimizationLisa and Richard found that Summit of Love helped them optimize an already great relationship, resulting in a 20% to 30% increase in mutual appreciation. They gained practical strategies for deepening their connection and maximizing their time together while…Lisa & Richard 5-25 · Summit of Love
WatchPower Couple Discovers Business Blind Spot and Achieves New Relationship PlateauAntonia and Joel attended Summit of Love by Annie Lalla and Eben Pagan to deepen their marriage. They identified a major professional blind spot, resulting in the decision to make Joel a co-owner of the business Antonia founded 23 years ago. They credit the p…Antonia & Joel 5-25 · Summit of Love
WatchDeepening Intimacy Through Skillful Conflict Resolution Tools and Collective Community WisdomJason and Dina attended Summit of Love by Annie Lalla, gaining a step-by-step process to 'unlock' a partner's suffering during meltdowns. They reported that the experience gamified conflict resolution, providing a 'software update' for their relationship's OS…Jason & Dina 11-25 · Summit of Love
What people were sceptical about first
- “Whether she's triggered or I'm triggered, we're both triggered, we have a really practical process that we can use now of how I know how to really soothe her nervous system and to really help to co-regulate both of us.”Jennifer & Alex 11-25
- “David admitted he was initially resistant because he thought the retreat might be 'a little more woo-woo' than he wanted. However, after leaning into the experience, he found it to be sweet, nice, and deeply meaningful for them as a couple.”Annie & David 11-25
- “Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like handing your partner the keys to the OS software update that they really crave in those moments of trigger and nervous system breakdown.”Jason & Dina 11-25
Frequently asked
- Is Transformative Listening worth it if traditional couples therapy failed?
- Yes. Christina noted that they previously used couples therapy just to argue and often left sessions madder than before. Transformative Listening worked because it focused on current feelings and vulnerability rather than rehashing past arguments like who left a dish in the sink. — Christina H.
- Can you try Transformative Listening before committing to a long-term program?
- Christina and Robert were initially hesitant because they were separated and near divorce, so they started with a 'breakout session' or introductory one-week experience to see how it felt before fully jumping in. — Christina H.
- Does Transformative Listening help with individual personal growth?
- Christina found the process so effective for her own healing that she stopped seeing her individual therapist. She reported that it helped her heal her own wounds and trauma, making her a better teacher, friend, and parent. — Christina H.
- Will I feel safe at a relationship retreat with diverse couples?
- David initially questioned how safe the environment would feel given the diversity of religious and spiritual backgrounds. However, he found the environment exceptionally sincere and was amazed by how readily couples supported each other's breakthroughs. — Annie & David 5-25
- Is the Summit of Love worth it if my relationship is already good?
- Yes, Annie and David considered their relationship 'easy' and 'the best they ever had' before attending. They discovered that there was a 'next level' above what they had imagined, making the experience invaluable regardless of their starting point. — Annie & David 5-25
- What is a major takeaway from the Summit of Love curriculum?
- Annie highlighted the discovery of the 'couples entity,' which is the idea that a relationship has its own purpose and vision in the world. She described this as a frame of thinking that changes their future because it cannot be unlearned. — Annie & David 5-25