Does Transformative Listening work if I am a skeptic?

Andre D. was initially a skeptic who grew up in a household where emotions weren't considered real. He recommends trying it just once to see how your body feels, noting that he felt an immediate shift from heavy to light after his first experience.

How does the practice help with interpersonal conflict?

Andre explains that he no longer has as much conflict because he can recognize when others are distressed and hold a 'listening space' for them to shed that distress, rather than reacting to it.

What happens during a Transformative Listening retreat?

Andre participated in 'rage sessions' where he used specific exercises to express bottled-up anger. He described a curated scene where he was held down by seven men, which led to a breakthrough about no longer wanting to carry other people's emotional loads.

Can executive coaching help if you work for a narcissist?

Sarah Foss initially believed her situation was impossible based on literature regarding narcissists. However, she found that Dr. Sharon Melnick provided specific tactics that allowed her to conquer the 'impossible' and create a more successful, powerful relationship.

Is the investment in Horizon Point Inc worth the cost?

According to Sarah Foss, every single penny spent provides a return on investment that is difficult to even comprehend. She describes the commitment as one that high performers essentially need to make for themselves.

How does Dr. Sharon Melnick's coaching style work?

Sarah Foss highlights Dr. Melnick's ability to be an insightful listener and collaborator. She uses a 'tried and true' approach that feels specific to the individual while being grounded in her experience helping many others through similar situations.

What do real people say about conflict resolution?

19 people recorded interviews about conflict resolution across 7 organisations. 11 of them mentioned better family or relationship life in their own words. The most common timeframe people described was over a year. Every figure below is a count of what people said in their recorded interview — not a clinical trial or a survey.

First-hand accounts from people who talked about conflict resolution in their recorded interview.

What people said changed

Counts of interviews where the person described this in their own words.

Family & relationships11 of 19 mentioned it
“We had tried a lot of things and had been in a pretty unhealthy relationship for, like, five and a half years before we found Transformative Listening.”Christina H.
Felt supported6 of 19 mentioned it
“Life before Transformative Listening was very heavy.”Andre D.
Confidence5 of 19 mentioned it
“Transformative Listening really helped me sort of turn down the volume on that voice that's, you know, holding me back and allowing me to discharge some of those fears, some of that anger, so I can, like, be my full o…”Andre D.
More clients2 of 19 mentioned it
“She has truly helped people through so many different situations that her approach makes it feel like it's something specific for me, but it's tried and true and it's gonna work because she knows it has from other cli…”Sarah Foss
Better systems2 of 19 mentioned it
“It's really, it's kind of like my punchline ⁓ that when people find out that there is a way to be able to take pictures and have it automatically uploaded and turned into a spreadsheet, it's just, you can just see peo…”Klea Dawn Harris
Weight change1 of 19 mentioned it
“I needed more tools to help me shed some of that weight.”Andre D.
Team & hiring1 of 19 mentioned it
“Not only did I make it a more successful and powerful relationship, but I actually turned the tables and was able to get what my team and I needed. to increase our capabilities and our compensation at the company.”Sarah Foss
Mood & stress1 of 19 mentioned it
“Klea (00:00) I am involved in a lot of estate planning. creation for my clients as well as the state administration and before I found fair split I found that the estate administration took a lot more time, took a lot…”Klea Dawn Harris

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How long it took

Over a year · 1

Stories in this topic

Showing 12 of 19 interviews.

What people were sceptical about first

“Andre D. was initially a skeptic who grew up in a household where emotions weren't considered real. He recommends trying it just once to see how your body feels, noting that he felt an immediate shift from heavy to light after his first experience.”Andre D.
“According to Sarah Foss, every single penny spent provides a return on investment that is difficult to even comprehend. She describes the commitment as one that high performers essentially need to make for themselves.”Sarah Foss
“Whether she's triggered or I'm triggered, we're both triggered, we have a really practical process that we can use now of how I know how to really soothe her nervous system and to really help to co-regulate both of us.”Jennifer & Alex 11-25

Frequently asked

Does Transformative Listening work if I am a skeptic?: Andre D. was initially a skeptic who grew up in a household where emotions weren't considered real. He recommends trying it just once to see how your body feels, noting that he felt an immediate shift from heavy to light after his first experience. — Andre D.
How does the practice help with interpersonal conflict?: Andre explains that he no longer has as much conflict because he can recognize when others are distressed and hold a 'listening space' for them to shed that distress, rather than reacting to it. — Andre D.
What happens during a Transformative Listening retreat?: Andre participated in 'rage sessions' where he used specific exercises to express bottled-up anger. He described a curated scene where he was held down by seven men, which led to a breakthrough about no longer wanting to carry other people's emotional loads. — Andre D.
Can executive coaching help if you work for a narcissist?: Sarah Foss initially believed her situation was impossible based on literature regarding narcissists. However, she found that Dr. Sharon Melnick provided specific tactics that allowed her to conquer the 'impossible' and create a more successful, powerful relationship. — Sarah Foss
Is the investment in Horizon Point Inc worth the cost?: According to Sarah Foss, every single penny spent provides a return on investment that is difficult to even comprehend. She describes the commitment as one that high performers essentially need to make for themselves. — Sarah Foss
How does Dr. Sharon Melnick's coaching style work?: Sarah Foss highlights Dr. Melnick's ability to be an insightful listener and collaborator. She uses a 'tried and true' approach that feels specific to the individual while being grounded in her experience helping many others through similar situations. — Sarah Foss