What kind of community can I expect at the Summit of Love?

Antonia and Joel noted that it is a curated group of high-powered, high-energy 'power couples' who own businesses. They emphasized that finding a community of this caliber and 'ilk' is very difficult in day-to-day life.

How does the program help identify hidden relationship issues?

The program uses a 'crowdsourcing' technique and a method of looking for 'soft spots' and the 'dark side' of the relationship. Joel explained that this enabled them to uncover undiscovered issues with clarity and support from other members.

Can this retreat impact my professional life as well as my marriage?

Yes, Antonia discovered a 'gigantic' blind spot regarding her 23-year-old business, realizing she needed to make her husband a co-owner. They left with specific action items for their life and business in Sedona.

Is the Summit of Love worth attending if we have already done a lot of therapy?

Yes. Debra Stengel notes that despite having 'done so much work over the years' on their childhoods, the program provided a 'huge aha moment' and a real breakthrough that was unique compared to their past efforts.

What is the coaching style of Annie Lalla and Eben Pagan like?

Richard Koeppel describes the coaching as providing an 'extra bit of care and attention,' noting that Eben offered personalized coaching on the side to help him do things better in his life while working on his relationship.

Is the environment at Summit of Love high-pressure or uncomfortable?

Richard emphasizes that the experience is 'fun' and 'warm,' rather than 'sitting over the coals.' He highlights that no topic is 'verboten' and the space is curated to be supportive and welcoming for all emotions.

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13 people answered this on the record, across 1 organisation. The change they described most often was better family or relationship life — 6 of 13 raised it unprompted. 3 described feeling heard and supported by the provider. Each figure is a count of what someone said in a recorded interview.

Based on interviews recorded up to 2025-05-26. Updated as new interviews arrive.

What the answers had in common

Counts of interviews where the person described this in their own words.

Outcomes described by people answering: eben pagan annie lalla
What changed	Interviews	Share
Family & relationships	6 of 13	46%
Felt supported	3 of 13	23%
Confidence	2 of 13	15%
Better systems	1 of 13	8%
Mobility	1 of 13	8%

“Gosh, you know, we're always looking for new and better ways to improve our life and our marriage and our relationship is just such a huge piece of our life.”Antonia & Joel 5-25
“I'd like to acknowledge that I'm becoming more aware that our collective relationship is actually an entity and has its own consciousness, that we get to grow and shape and create and feed with our rituals, practices,…”Jason & Dina 11-25
“It was important for us to come back to the Summit of Love because the first time we were here, Annie Nevin gave a concept of each individual in a couple has its blind spot, but the couple as an entity also has its bl…”Jennifer & Alex 11-25
“And we love rituals, but to have more of a framework of why rituals are important.”Jason & Dina 11-25

The interviews behind this answer

What they doubted first

“Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like handing your partner the keys to the OS software update that they really crave in those moments of trigger and nervous system breakdown.”Jason & Dina 11-25
“Whether she's triggered or I'm triggered, we're both triggered, we have a really practical process that we can use now of how I know how to really soothe her nervous system and to really help to co-regulate both of us.”Jennifer & Alex 11-25
“David admitted he was initially resistant because he thought the retreat might be 'a little more woo-woo' than he wanted. However, after leaning into the experience, he found it to be sweet, nice, and deeply meaningful for them as a couple.”Annie & David 11-25

Follow-up questions they answered

What kind of community can I expect at the Summit of Love?: Antonia and Joel noted that it is a curated group of high-powered, high-energy 'power couples' who own businesses. They emphasized that finding a community of this caliber and 'ilk' is very difficult in day-to-day life. — Antonia & Joel 5-25
How does the program help identify hidden relationship issues?: The program uses a 'crowdsourcing' technique and a method of looking for 'soft spots' and the 'dark side' of the relationship. Joel explained that this enabled them to uncover undiscovered issues with clarity and support from other members. — Antonia & Joel 5-25
Can this retreat impact my professional life as well as my marriage?: Yes, Antonia discovered a 'gigantic' blind spot regarding her 23-year-old business, realizing she needed to make her husband a co-owner. They left with specific action items for their life and business in Sedona. — Antonia & Joel 5-25
Is the Summit of Love worth attending if we have already done a lot of therapy?: Yes. Debra Stengel notes that despite having 'done so much work over the years' on their childhoods, the program provided a 'huge aha moment' and a real breakthrough that was unique compared to their past efforts. — Richard & Debra 11-25
What is the coaching style of Annie Lalla and Eben Pagan like?: Richard Koeppel describes the coaching as providing an 'extra bit of care and attention,' noting that Eben offered personalized coaching on the side to help him do things better in his life while working on his relationship. — Richard & Debra 11-25
Is the environment at Summit of Love high-pressure or uncomfortable?: Richard emphasizes that the experience is 'fun' and 'warm,' rather than 'sitting over the coals.' He highlights that no topic is 'verboten' and the space is curated to be supportive and welcoming for all emotions. — Richard & Debra 11-25

Where these people were

Annie Lalla - Summit of Love · 13